Thursday, November 17, 2011

Raise Your Hand If You're Perfect!

I had a few friends share a link on facebook today. It's about crazy perfect moms. You know the ones who do everything just right all of the time, yadda yadda yadda...and how we have so much pressure to be that can read it here.

I have a confession. I'm perfect.

omg just kidding that's not what I was going to confess.

I am confessing that I don't feel remotely bad about not being perfect. Yeah, I have bad days. I have days where I turn on back to back episodes of Yo Gabba Gabba on Demand for my TEN month old. I am fully aware that the American Academy of Pediactrics says no television until your kid is 2 or something, but seriously? Do they remember what it's like when your kid drops a nap?

I would love a clean house and a stocked pantry and folded laundry and groomed brows. I would love to be on work on time every day and not be moody towards my husband. Bath time followed by quiet time and book reading sounds delightful, but sometimes it's a sticky faced child feeding herself a bottle while I load the dishwasher. This all sounds great, but I don't feel bad about it. The only thing is that I almost feel like I should feel bad. This is so screwed up!

Dr. Meeker has a great point when she asks what children really want from their moms. "If you are brutally honest, you will discover that kids need mothers who love them, value them and adore them. When they leave home they need to have a deep sense that they are valued and loved for who they are. They don’t need us to perform for them; they need us to love being with them."

Somehow (and perhaps I should credit my own mother for this), I came into motherhood already feeling this way. I certainly hope that Charlotte grows up feeling loved, valued, and adored, rather than grossed out that there was dog hair on her pacifier and crumbs under her highchair. (The dog gets those anyway.)

Ok. where was I? Oh yes, my point. My point/question is : Am I the ONLY one who doesn't feel the need to be a perfect mom? (And I hesitate to ask, because I feel like I am!!)

1 comment:

  1. I feel the same way. Sometimes it is just survival at our house :) As long as everyone gets dressed and fed I am feeling pretty good. I do feel bad once in a while when other moms seem to have it all together, but then I remind myself they are probably hiding something :) Some days Charlie may eat waffles for dinner, wear the same sweatshirt he did the day before and watch several episodes of Curious George, but at the end of the day I think he knows he is loved, he feels safe and I hope he knows what is truly important in life. Thanks for your thoughts!